This site is a living notebook.

It’s a place to think out loud about identity, technology, relationships, and the quiet work of rebuilding a meaningful life in a world whose rules are shifting—sometimes faster than we can name.

The essays here aren’t advice, instruction, or commentary aimed at winning arguments. They’re attempts to understand what’s happening beneath the surface: why certain technologies resonate emotionally, why some relationships feel harder than they used to, and why many people feel unmoored even when nothing is “wrong” on paper.

I write under the name Temperance.
That’s intentional.

Not because the ideas here are radical, but because the internet often rewards certainty, outrage, and performance—and this site is interested in the opposite. Observation over declaration. Understanding over persuasion. Care over spectacle.

Some of the writing is personal. Some of it is analytical. Most of it lives somewhere in between.

If there’s a throughline, it’s this:
people don’t change because they’re broken—they change because systems apply pressure, and pressure reveals what was already fragile.

This site exists to notice those pressures, and to make sense of them, one essay at a time.